Lessons from my last relationship
They say past relationships are lessons. This is the one phrase that has got me past feeling bitter over a break up to accepting and appreciating what I had. It’s given me peace and happiness more than any silly re-bound or revenge strategy would. For everyone that’s in the bitter stage, write down what you’ve learned; look at it all and realize that your next relationship will encompass the best version of you. Allow your lessons heal your wounds. Here are mine:
- Love is not a game. Take it seriously.
- Who the fuck cares if your right or wrong. Stop ruining your relationship by proving yourself. You’ll look back when its all over and regret all the unnecessary pathetic moments you did.
- He loves you. Don’t live in fear that some day he won’t.
- Empathy is as important as honesty in a relationship.
- Live in the moment. The butterflies, the love, the passion. Take it all in and don’t take it for granted.
- If he tries his hardest to like your friends but finds them bad for you, deal with it in a way you’ll both be happy. Don’t ignore his needs.
- Just because your happy doesn’t mean he is, be sympathetic and sensitive to his feelings.
- If the relationship was good in the beginning and then turns sour, don’t give up. Try your hardest to get back what you had and learn why things changed. It’s easier then you think.
- If he needs to feel a bit of control in the relationship ; give it to him. Things like this can make or break your relationship.
- Talk, talk, talk. Talk about everything you are feeling, everything you need, the ups, the downs, the fears ; communication is key. The more you know what’s in each other’s heads the more comfortable you’ll feel.
Beautiful is the woman who keeps her head up and is proud of her body, just as it is. Beautiful is the man who has to hide his gay lover from his judgmental parents, but who loves, regardless of what the world will think. Beautiful are the women who buy the jeans that fit them, not the ones they hope will fit one day; the people who wear what they want because they like it. Beautiful are the people who choose love. Beautiful are the people who allow their bodies to be their temples and canvases, and who create their outer beings to reflect their inner. Beautiful are the people who hurt and feel insecure and make mistakes—but rise above, and find confidence and admit when they’re wrong. Beautiful is you and me. Beautiful is everyday. Beautiful is the struggle and the triumph, and beautiful is the understanding how necessary the struggle was. Remember that the next time you feel hopeless. Beautiful is loving yourself enough to know you’re worth more than feeling inadequate - Brianna Wiest
Who are we
There is nothing more liberating than the day you realize you’re living without consideration of other’s opinions. It’s the day that you’re focused on what you are doing, right in that moment. It’s when you don’t hold back because you’re afraid of who may judge you and make you feel embarrassed. It’s also the day that you accept negative opinions as weightless, insignificant thoughts of others. You make yourself the only person in control of your life. As it should be. - Brianna Wiest