Lessons from my last relationship
They say past relationships are lessons. This is the one phrase that has got me past feeling bitter over a break up to accepting and appreciating what I had. It’s given me peace and happiness more than any silly re-bound or revenge strategy would. For everyone that’s in the bitter stage, write down what you’ve learned; look at it all and realize that your next relationship will encompass the best version of you. Allow your lessons heal your wounds. Here are mine:
- Love is not a game. Take it seriously.
- Who the fuck cares if your right or wrong. Stop ruining your relationship by proving yourself. You’ll look back when its all over and regret all the unnecessary pathetic moments you did.
- He loves you. Don’t live in fear that some day he won’t.
- Empathy is as important as honesty in a relationship.
- Live in the moment. The butterflies, the love, the passion. Take it all in and don’t take it for granted.
- If he tries his hardest to like your friends but finds them bad for you, deal with it in a way you’ll both be happy. Don’t ignore his needs.
- Just because your happy doesn’t mean he is, be sympathetic and sensitive to his feelings.
- If the relationship was good in the beginning and then turns sour, don’t give up. Try your hardest to get back what you had and learn why things changed. It’s easier then you think.
- If he needs to feel a bit of control in the relationship ; give it to him. Things like this can make or break your relationship.
- Talk, talk, talk. Talk about everything you are feeling, everything you need, the ups, the downs, the fears ; communication is key. The more you know what’s in each other’s heads the more comfortable you’ll feel.
